In the last couple of days I've received some messages related to love relationships. Questions were about past and future relationships. So today, I'm going to start my post with one little story. I hope it will give you a different insight on these subject. So let's get started ...
Once upon a time, Sorrow, Happiness, Love, Vanity and the rest of the crew decided to go on tropical island for a vacation. Just to get a little break from everyday life. Due to their nature, each of them spend some time on their own way under the palm trees. Suddenly they received information that a big storm is coming and they have to evacuate the island. They all rushed to leave the island on their boats. But, of course, as usually happens, because of its nature, Love decided to remain a little bit longer on the island. Love believed that the storm will pass and soon the sun will come out. But as the clouds darkened, Love realized that situation will not change and it was time to leave. But unfortunately, all the boats sailed. Love was left alone on the shore with a hope someone will help her.
Just then Prosperity passed by in its boat. Love shouted: ''Prosperity, could you please take me with you?'' Prosperity answered: ''No, my boat is full of precious possessions, gold and silver. There is no place for you.''
Some time later, Vanity came by in a boat. Again Love shouted: ''Could you help me, Vanity? I need a lift, please take me with you.'' Vanity responded: ''No, I can't take you with me. You are not that important and my boat will get dirty because of your muddy feet.''
Sorrow passed by after some time. Again, Love asked for help. Sorrow said to Love: '' No, I can't take you with me. I'm so sad. I want to be alone.''
When Happiness passed by, a few minutes later, Love called for help. But Happiness was so happy that it didn't look around and cared about anyone.
Love felt rejected. Just then somebody called out: ''Come Love, I will take you with me.'' Love didn't know who was being so kind. She jumped on the boat, greatly relieved that she would reach a safe place. On getting off the boat, Love met Wisdom and asked: ''Wisdom, do you know who generously gave me a lift when no one else wished to help me?'' Wisdom smiled and said: ''Oh, that was Time.'' Love wondered: ''Why would Time stop, pick me and take me to safety?'' Wisdom responded: ''Because only Time knows your true value, greatness and what you are capable of. Only Love can bring happiness and peace to someone. And Time is aware of that.''
Yes, you loved. So deeply. And you enjoyed on the island of love with your loved one. And then, after a while challenges appeared. Some of those challenges are easy, some of them are a little harder to resolve, and sometimes certain challenges require the abandoning of the island. It all depends on partners. But if you realize that the love from the other side is no longer ''served'' and everything becomes pain and suffering, it's necessary to leave the island. It's necessary to save yourself. Sometimes you need to find the strength and weigh the anchor from the sea, let go and sail away with your own love. That doesn't mean that you are a coward. It means that you started to love and appreciate yourself. You realized what love is and what love isn't. And so, here starts a difficult period. The fight with yourself. With your own emotions that are mixed with ego. And you will be confused and trying to find help wherever you can. But the only thing that can help you is time. Time heals all. Take time to work on yourself. Love yourself and do things that you love and enjoy. Find happiness in small things. I know, it will not be easy. But in the end, time take its course. Time heals everything. So give the time some time.
And then, after everything that you survived and find your peaceful shore, you ask me is it worth returning to the island from which you were forced to leave. My answer is no. It's not worth it. Don't go back. And now I will tell you why. After a lot of struggle your love barely managed to leave the island. The time, which you should be grateful to, helped you to get to a safe shore. On that shore you realized what you want and what you don't want. And in the end, after the struggle, working on yourself and giving an effort to find happiness and peace, you want to go back to that island? That's like you are throwing in the wind everything that you accomplish for a hope that second time, that island will give you peace and everything you need. But it won't. The island would have to change their geographic coordinates, so it can offer you peace and good weather. But this is impossible. Simply because of where it's located. The island is the victim of bad weather. After all, if you have experienced the Bahamas, why would you go back to them when there are Maldives, Bora Bora, Seychelles, Madagascar and other beautiful tropical islands. Especially, why would you go back somewhere where you suffered and it wasn't that nice?
Unfortunately, people rarely change. It takes a great aim or a very big suffer so they can decide to change. I'm not saying that is not possible, indeed, anything is possible. But knowing the nature of man and especially his ego, we know what often happens. After all, the person you broke, rarely is a person who you can ''fix'' you back. Today, because of that experience you are strong. You are strong because you were weak. You have courage because you were afraid to left the island. And at the end of the sea route, you get to know wisdom.
Love is not loud. It's not shipwreck, suffering and pain. No. Love is quiet, sincere, it doesn't play games. Love knows respect, support and understanding. And that should be the island you are looking for. There, you will find true love and happiness.
Reward love with love, loyalty with loyalty. Also, reward disloyalty and insincere love with distance.
Your Life Coach Ursula