Friends are the family we choose for ourselves. All the people we spend time with are actually our mirror. They say if you want to know the quality of your life, you just have to look five people with whom you are closest. Because they are your reflection.
A lot of people come into our lives with different roles. Some of them need to teach us a lesson, some of them are with us for life and few of them just came to shake our life and go away like nothing happened. And you're trying to catch a breath because they left a big mark. But you can survive anything, and you know that. Your soul has the power to recover.
Some people have been in your life just a certain stage, and with some you have unbreakable connection. Regardless of the distance you're always connected with them. Also, there are people who unexpectedly get into your life and you just don't understand how could you live without them. Some of them you know a very short period of time, but you feel like you know them forever. It's like when a Yin finds his Yang.
In the end a lot of people walked through your life. Some leave large trace, some unpleasant trail, and some people we can never ever forget. There are no wrong people and wrong places. You've learned something about other people and about yourself. You become a better person. The person you are today. All the bad experiences gave you something positive that you can be thankful for. Often a lot of light come out from the darkness. Everything happens for a reason and for your best. You are now at the right place with the right people. Because you will end up where you need to be, with whom you need to be and you will do what you need to do.
Allow life to shape you. Don't regret missed opportunities, people who hurt you and situations with a negative connotation. Because from another point of view everything is connected and it's a part of one big wonderful story. The story called life. Try to understand that people are not against you. They are for themselves. Sometimes you meet a certain person so you could change your life, and sometimes you are the key of change of someone else's life. Each person you meet on your journey loves something, is afraid of something and lost something in their life. In the end, more life lessons are made from failure than from success. Failure strengthens your character. That's why it's actually a success.
So, for the sake of yourself don't forget three types of people who walked through your life. People who helped you when it was the most difficult, those you left you when it was difficult and those who put you in a difficult situation. Love with all your heart the ones who helped you and let them know you appreciate them. Also forgive the ones that hurt you because they didn't know otherwise. But again, despite all the people, the person with whom you will spend most of the time, your whole life is - you. Therefore, make sure to be happy, balanced, calm and satisfied.
Life is like a party.
You organize it in your personal space and you invite a lot of people that you think are your friends. Some of them leave early and you're very sad because of that. Some stay all night till morning do you apart. Some of them show up too late and some don't even show up. When something is funny some laugh with you and at the same time, some laugh at you. But in the end, after all the fun, there are a few who stay behind to help you clean up the mess. Most of the time, they aren't even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real true friends. They are here when you are dancing, laughing, partying or when you need some comfort and help.
Always be available for certain people. The right ones. Also be busy for the ones who are taking away your energy. In the end try to be invisible for hypocritical people, and absent for liars.
Your Life Coach Ursula